Last evening I reconnected with some friends I haven’t seen in 13 years. It dawned on me that we are the last generation of people who will be apart. Through the magic of FaceBook kids graduating high school and college won’t know what it is like to not see someone for years. They might not physically see them, but they’ll be in touch.
One of the greatest feelings is that moment right before you hug them for the first time in a decade. You see them, you have a flash flood of memories of all you’ve been through together and that period of your life….. and then you realize….. you can just pick up where you left off.
It keeps happening. This will sound silly but this whole FaceBook thing has allowed me to reconnect with people I never thought I would see again. The memories are good memories and I am beyond fortunate to be able to experience these friends all over again. I feel a new sense of connection. I want to know where they have been what are they doing.
One of my friends had been stricken with cancer yet already defeated it and moved on. When she told me I was floored yet at the same time I was not surprised at her conquering of it. That’s kind of what she does. I was fascinated by her story. I am fascinated by a lot of stories. I write a lot about people in our sport, and this year I would life to find an outlet to share stories outside of our sport. Heck, maybe I can do that right here.
I have always loved meeting new people… and that sounds so cliché…. but I do. Every person has something to tell, and we are here to share in one another and our experiences and connections with one another.
2011 was an exceptionally good year, but so much of what we experience is what we bring to the table. Sure we are diagnosed with illnesses and physical ailments but what do we do with it? Our attitude is the leader. Our situations are what we make of them.
I see so many advertisements for “How to make the most out of your day.” Books, lectures, etc. I think they are awesome, I think it’s great. I am never drawn to them because in all honesty….. and if you know me you know it’s true……. I believe I make the most out of every single day. Thank my parents for that. Those little lectures my father would give me while driving to swim practice….. he called it his philosophy store. I’d roll my eyes at the lectures….. but as an adult I realize what he gave me was pure gold. Solid freaking gold. He would never have made a billion dollars if he did open that philosophy store but if he knew how much his words and teaching affect me now….. well he must know. He must feel like the richest man on earth.
Often times people interpret my writings as me stating I am perfect. Remember this…… people will always form their own conclusions and judgements and will always read between the lines. They will always seek what isn’t there. When I owned my coaching company others would often try to read between the lines…. what is she really saying……. nothing I would respond. It amazed me how folks would try to decipher something that wasn’t there. I stopped trying to write to avoid that years and years ago. But hell I am not perfect. Perfection is an unforgiving place if you think about it. Makes me shudder to think about it. Who would want to be perfect?
I am just like any other human being on this earth. I stumble and fall and I get back up. Simple. I am pretty simple.
We all have a structure in our lives that we “live” by. Here is what I try to live by every single day,
- Be impeccable with your word
- Don’t take anything personally
- don’t make assumptions
- Always do you best
Those are the four agreements. Plain, simple and straightforward. I read them every single morning, just like I listed them and I do my best to live them. Sometimes I nail it, sometimes I don’t, either way I don’t strive for the perfectly lived day, I strive for the best day I can possibly have. I move on from them both.
It’s a good way to live for me.
So as we head into 2012 think about what your life is guided by. What steers the ship of you? What keeps you on the good foot so to speak? What dreams and aspirations do you have and how will you go about achieving them?
I will tell you right here the biggest secret to success in life: passion. If you have passion for what you do…… everything else becomes doable. If you have a passion for competition then the management of your life will fall into place. If you have a passion for what you do the motivation will be there. If you have a passion … then your focus will become sharp and clear.
So take 2012 by the balls and go after it. It’s your life and you only get one shot. We might miss but I’d rather miss than quit.
HAPPY NEW YEAR!