What Are The Rights Of The Surrogate Mothers

 

The first surrogacy was first carried out in the year 1980. It was a very complicated process then but with passing year, the process is becoming simpler and simpler. However, the legal procedures are still a little complicated to date. All the documents and legislation are passed long before the surrogate mother takes the pregnancy, according to Egg Donor and Surrogacy.

However, there is always the possibility that surprises may occur during pregnancy and after the birth of the baby.

What are the rights of the surrogate mothers?   

In the case of surrogacy, the parents usually have more rights than the surrogate. However, this does not mean that the surrogate does not have any rights whatsoever. There are serious medical procedures that may involve intake of many different drugs. It is for this reason that the surrogate mothers have legal rights. Some of the rights of the surrogate mothers include the following;

  • The surrogate mothers have the right to know about all the medical procedures she will go though. In addition, she also has the right to be informed of all the drugs she will take and their side effects if any.
  • The surrogate mother also has a legal right to demand for a medical insurance cover.
  • She has the right to have a medical examination without incurring any cost.
  • She has the right to seek medical attention and support for free in case she begins to develop any side effects.
  • She has the right to receive the compensation agreed on between her and the parents of the baby. The compensation should be paid to her after successful delivery of the baby.
  • She also has the right to seek for support psychologically during the period of pregnancy for free. The surrogate also has the right to know about the possible health risks incurred when the parents are HIV/AIDS positive. It is also her right to regularly visit the doctor for free during the pregnancy.

Parental rights of the surrogate mothers

Besides the rights listed above, there are no rights that go deeper into the surrogate’s motherhood. However, in many states where surrogacy is legal and recognized by the authorities, the surrogate has no parental rights. It is impossible for the surrogate to claim parental rights over the baby even though her egg was used for the In Vitro Insemination.

According to the law, the surrogate ceases to interact with the baby when it is born. In most cases, all the terms are listed in the agreement made before the surrogate agrees to carry the pregnancy. This is to prevent the bonding between the surrogate and the baby.

This is because it may make the transfer process of the baby from the surrogate to the parents more difficult.

In few cases, the surrogate is required by the parents to have the baby for a little longer and breastfeed the baby. However, the terms of agreement between the parents and the surrogate depends on their relationship. Some parents may even allow the surrogate to visit the baby, and even maintain a close relationship.

However, all these are exceptions because the law clearly stipulates that the surrogate ceases to interact with the baby after birth.

Surrogacy in California

It is not a secret that there are a lot of couples who have issues in conceiving or having a child; the common cause of which is infertility in either the man or woman. However, infertility is not the only cause to which the need for a surrogate in California has become prevalent. Since 1999, California has accepted domestic partnership between people of the same sex. It has only been since 2015 that the same-sex marriage has become legal in all 50 states of the United States of America, which has now created a formidable sense of demand in surrogacy.

 California is one of the most open-minded states in the US. The California Assembly Bill 1217 that has been put in effect since January 1, 2013, made the foundation of surrogacy in the state as strong as ever with the Uniform Parentage Act that legally defined a parent-child relationship regardless of the biological relations of either parent to the surrogate child. Surrogacy may either be traditional or gestational. You can go to any legal California Surrogacy Agency. 

Traditional surrogacy occurs when the eggs of the surrogate are being used to form a union with one of the intended parents’ sperm, while gestational surrogacy happens when the surrogate has no biological connection with the fertilized egg at all — the surrogate only acts as the carrier of the fetus.  

How to Become a Surrogate in California?  

  1. Surrogate mothers should be non-smokers and should live a healthy lifestyle — no drugs and alcohol abuse;
  2. Surrogate mothers ideally should be between 21-40 years of age;
  3. The surrogate, ideally, should have had a healthy pregnancy 10to 7 years prior to the next proposed pregnancy; 
  4. The surrogate should have no record of miscarriage in the past;
  5. Surrogate mothers should have an average Body Mass Index (BMI); and
  6. Surrogate mothers should be financially stable and live in a healthy and supportive environment.

There are a lot of agencies in California who cater to surrogacy. For women who wish to become surrogate mothers, they can approach any of these agencies and even post an advertisement online.  

The demand for surrogates has reportedly been increasing each year since 2012 in California. Even people from other states would come up to California for the procedure and because there is a reputable number of agencies and even hospitals who caters to the needs of intended parents.  

Gestational Surrogacy Nowadays 

Gestational surrogacy has become a practical choice for couples who wish to become a biological match to their children.  

There are cases wherein the mother of a heterosexual couple have had a number of stillbirths in the past and surrogacy is the prime choice of having a successful offspring. The surrogate mother will then carry the egg of the intended mother that had been fertilized with the sperm of the intended father, which would mean that the surrogate mother will only act as the carrier of the child.  

In the cases of the same-sex coupling or both male parents, they could use their sperms and fertilize an egg of their choice (apart from the surrogate mother’s egg) and have the surrogate mother carry the fertilized egg. This process is called in vitro fertilization (IVF).  

Gestational surrogacy or host surrogacy has become very common as the supply of sperms and eggs had become easily available to couples as well. Family Counselling is profoundly available to all Californians in a variety of Family Planning Centers in California The Department of Health Care Services – Office of Family Planning in California is dedicated to educating, supporting, and providing services to couples relating to family planning.  

This has been quite beneficial especially to families who come from a low-income household or those who do not have access to medical insurance. The state of California enforced a Family PACT (Planning, Access, Care, and Treatment) program providing both men and women a wide range of medical center selection catering to their family planning education and needs. With more than 2,000 private and public networks all over California, this program can cater to any health-concerned issues in terms of contraceptives, family counseling and education, and even test and treatment for STI (Sexually Transmitted Infections) and HIV (Human Immunodeficiency Virus) screening.  

The Family PACT program was made available to the mass residents of California to reduce the rate of unintended child-birth and the costs that come along with it; increase the access of family planning services to a household who comes at or below the 200% federal poverty level, encourage the use of operative contraceptive methods and promote superlative reproductive health to all the Californians.  

Strassburg Sock Keuka Lake Triathlon: pre race extravaganza!

 

Memorial Day weekend kicks things off around here. For me it’s the last weekend of being at home. Our summer is filled to the brim with travel. Between race announcing, coaching and racing myself there is something every weekend. I love it. What I love is that we do this as a family. The races I announce, Curt races, Luc is part of the Score-This race crew and then he races.

It’s like a family picnic each weekend when I am with the Score-This Crew. Are we close? We’ve all known one another since before 1999. We’ve raced together, gone to one another’s weddings, gone to funerals together, watched one another’s children grow. You name it, we’ve done it. … we are a close bunch. That’s what makes these weekends so special.

Here is Rich and I at Lake Placid

Here is myself, Rich and Jeremy at Lake Placid

Here is what we have coming up for you this week, it’s going to be wicked busy and ultra fun!

Strassburg Sock Keuka Lake Triathlon pre race webinar, presented by Towpath Bike Shop:

  • Wednesday 8pm. Free. Click here to register.
  • Join me for an in depth review of the course, all distances, all races), the flow of race day and everything you will need to know for a successful race.

FREE CLINICS on Saturday at the Strassburg Sock Keuka Lake Triathlon 

We have a GREAT series of FREE clinics happening on Saturday before the race! Check them out!

  • 2:00-2:45pm  Clinic – RUN SMART running analysis-  TBD Hall/ Room TBD
  • 3:00-3:45pm  Clinic – Training with Technology presented by Endurance Factor – TBD Hall/ Room TBD
  • 4:00-4:45pm Clinic – How to maximize your transition presented by Mary Eggers from QT2 Systems
  • 5:00-5:45pm Clinic – First Timers Clinic – What you need to know for your race present by Curt Eggers and Brian Emelson from Towpath Bike
  • 4:30, 5:30, 6:30pm  Clinic – How to fix a flat – The WEED Physical Arts Building presented by Towpath Bike (packet pick up area)

What I love about this race is exactly what I stated above. It’s like coming to a family picnic. Not only with the Score-This crew… but with all of the people I get to see. I am of course your race announcer, and it’s such an honor to be able to announce for you in the morning and bring you through that finish line. It’s one of those things… I can’t believe I get to do!

mom announcing

Trust

On Sunday I rode with Les, from Tryon bikes. He turned out to be a terrific riding partner, one of the best in fact. A former mountain biker turned roadie… just a few months out of surgery, building his mileage.

When people ask me what pace I am riding, I never know. I stick to my HR zones as they need to be that day. Sunday it was a simple zone 1 long ride. It was beautiful out. Sun, some wind, and good company. We looped back to Mendon to join up with the final Tour de Cure ride and I got to ride with those folks for a few miles too.

It’s been awesome to watch these folks build up their mileage since December. I love watching people achieve new distances, things they didn’t think were possible. The excitement on their faces…. that’s what I am here for in the first place. As we rode I felt at peace. I wasn’t chasing any particular speed, just my own HR zone. Fueling like I know how, loving every minute of those five hours.

It’s taken me the better part of the last 6 months to build my health back. It’s been a long road. I haven’t talked about what happened…. I might never. It was a deliberately  small group of people who helped me through it, who carried me to be honest. Who let me have moments of frustration and anger. Who walked me through the small stepping-stones of coming back.

I didn’t plan for all of it to happen this way. It just kind of did. I have never been through anything like that before, and it caused me to get really…. really comfortable with being uncomfortable. It was beyond getting comfortable at a hard effort or with the fatigue of training. That… is actually now the easy part. When I am sore I relish in the feeling of being able. I never have the feeling of “UGH, I don’t want to do this session.” because I have been in the position where I wished for that kind of pain.

What it took to get from there to here was a tremendous amount of trust. I was in uncharted territory as far as training went. There was a lot of “Should we even be doing this.” and then a lot of “I am not sure, but let’s move forward anyway.” Training became the way for me to heal and get through more than it was about physiologically becoming stronger.

The stronger part has been happening in the process.

It’s funny because I don’t really look at paces or power. I keep a loose eye on all of that. I am present only in the process to be honest. I know the rest will come with time.  I was in a position where I could not dictate the timeline of when my body would respond. I knew it would be slower than usual. So I let go and I leaned into it. I leaned on the few people who were in the know. And we just kept moving forward.

Something really magical has happened in this process. I had never lost the joy of training through all of this…. I have always looked at my athleticism as a gift. But now there is more than joy in training. There is absolute happiness. Yet I had never lost the love.

It’s like I have been born again so to speak. The gift of being an athlete feels more like a gift. It’s absolutely beautiful to me.

When everything came down last year I went through a period of “why me.” And as I stand over on this side of it I think “Thank God it was me.” Because I can handle hard things. I can handle a rocking boat. I can not be shaken by a diagnosis and I can keep moving forward.

There was a substantial wind coming from all directions this past weekend. Actually that’s been the theme of late. I love the wind to be absolutely honest with you. It teaches you not to fight, but to relax. It teaches you that if you tense up and white knuckle the handlebars that you are one step away from getting knocked down.

The wind teaches you trust. Lean in….. relax…. trust that it will hold you up. Trust that you don’t know where the end of the wind lies but know that it will. And then another gust will come and you have to relax even more.

Wind is metaphorical. At least for my life. When that big gust comes you just have to take it. Smile. Keep moving forward through it. Trust that it won’t hurt you and if it does hurt you there will be people around you to help you get back up. Never fight that wind, because it will fight you back and it will win. Wind is bigger. Wind is stronger. You have to learn to roll with it and how to accept it while continuing to move forward.

As I rolled into the driveway I again had that feeling of 100% gratitude. It was a hard journey. Not one that I could have learned anywhere else, from anyone else. If there is one thing I am good at it’s paving my own way…. with a lot of help from a few people I can trust with my life. It’s been a long and strange road….. but it’s taught me so much. It’s taught me a lot about trust. Trust in the process, trust in myself and trust in the universe.

And it’s something I will never be able to teach.

my view